Ok, several things here:
1. You can't lose a cat you've loved for a long long time, then get another and immediately (I'm assuming younger cat?) and expect her to be a replacement for the cat that you loved. That is not fair. You shouldn't have gotten a cat at all if that was your expectation.
2. How long have you had her? If the answer isn't "many years" then the cat she is today, and the relationship you have with her today, isn't what it will be after some years with. But that's not to say that it's a slam dunk that your relationship will get a lot better with her. It's mostly dependent on how you treat her now, and a cat can definitely tell if you are frustrated with them and upset with them.
Right this moment I'm cuddled up with my bengal, Serafina, who was definitely the most un-cuddily of cats for the first few years. Now? I can count on her to frequently walk up to me, press herself against me, look up at me, and start loudly purring. There is nothing like a senior cat who has completely adapted in every way to your life, and you to theirs, but younger cats are different and they have great qualities too. Bengals can entertain you and brighten your day, and make you laugh, but you have to be willing to make the effort, and to engage them on their terms, which is usually play.
3. I've been there. Your story is my story in many respects. I lost my two 16+ year old cats within a span of 2 months 7 years ago. Painful beyond belief, and I still miss them. So I got 2 bengals. Wonderful cats, love them dearly. I did my homework, and got what I expected: two playful, fun, crazy cats. What I didn't necessarily expect was how much I was missing having a cat that wanted to cuddle. So I made the tough decision to add a third cat, Neytiri, who was an Oriental Shorthair kitten. Bingo, she's the most ridiculously cuddily kitty in existance. In hindsight, that was somewhat fortunate, it certainly could have turned out differently, but again I did my homework and I think got the odds in favor of the result that I wanted. But even if it didn't go as I hoped, she'd still be loved and cherished.
So anyway... love Bella for who she is. She can give you a lot of things your others couldn't. She can go on walks, she can entertain. She cat run incredibly fast chasing things, climb things with amazing dexterity, do backflips and somersaults chasing bird toys, and lots more. And yea, you might also consider adding a Siamese/Oriental kitten from a breeder that you carefully select, and a kitten that you carefully select.
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