last week, I adopted a 9 month old F1 female. She was having trouble adjusting at first, not eating, or using the litter box, constantly hissing, and attacking anything that moved close, and playing the invisible kitty game.
I have been giving her a lot of time, and space. Reading a ton about what I can do to help her adjust.
There has been a lot of avoiding eye contact No chasing close feedings play time with feather toys chicken treat sessions and lots of sitting close by talking to my kitty
her previous family was with 3 other cats, (she is not the only cat in the house) and with Male Owners only. The only female interactions she had was with a wife that was very uninterested in her, and a young daughter.
She has really come full circle. She plays, is pretty friendly and curious, follows me and other's around the house and will even eat right out of my hand, and walk right up to me when in bed. I thought maybe it was the being alone, but she seems to be adjusting well to being the cat of the house. And even uses the litter box for #2, (still fines her water bowl for #1) She is truly amazing.
BUT
There is one BIG problem.
SHE HATES ME !!!!!!
and LOVES pretty much everyone else = [
I live alone, with just me, my hedgehog, and now my crazy killer kitty. She will show SOOO much affection to my boyfriend (who has visited only a couple nights ) or other male friends. Stalk them around the house, rubbing up all over them, leaping 4 feet across the room to nuzzle her face into their head. If my boyfriend snaps, or calls her (by her new name) She will SPRINT through the house to get to his hand, or smash into his face. She will even dart between his feet when walking, and get right in his face if trying to do something at the counter, table, desk, bed, etc.
It has reach the point that she will become extremely pissy and aggressive if i enter the room when they're playing.
She was also make sure to stay on the furthest end of the room from me.
When she smells me, she jumps away and hisses
She will NOT approach me for affection.
Will hiss and attack if i try to pet her, or if she realizes its me petting and not a male, she'll attack
will not let me walk up close to her if with another male
will leave the room if i enter 50% of the time
will stay hidden from me most of the time, and wont go away when male present
I am unable to pick her up, even in an emergency with out MUCH aggravation, where she will willing be lifted and carried away by male friends.
She has gotten comfortable with me when she will sometime eat near me. Only when i have food, and she is hungry though. She is clearly afraid of me, and has a lot of tension towards me.
I am concerned that this might not change, and to have a rather large kitty, who is aggressive, and not friendly with me, her owner, for a long time is troubling me. I am starting to think this re-homing situation for her may not be the best. I would love to keep her and work with her if there is maybe some sort of hope in her coming around to being friendly with me, but for a $1000 investment, Im considering bringing her back to her owner to find a new home for her, and maybe adopt another (male) cat. Right now, it breaks my heart that she cant stand me, and truly is the most affectionate cat I've ever seen with other people.
PLEASE PLASE PLEASE HELP ME !
-- i love this kitty and need some advice as to what I should do about this. I want to make the right decision for us both, weather I decide to keep her, or find her another home with a primary male owner.
She is my first Bengal, and a definite F1. Her temperament is rather good overall. I adopted her to be my friend and have a mutual helping relationship. Seems like neither one of us are doing much but stress the other out.
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