To answer your questions:
Re: affection, it's all about his relationship with you, so it's very likely to get more affectionate, over time, so long as your relationship with him grows.
Re: Why he only pesters you for food. It's pretty simple, he's identified as the one he trusts, plus you and he has established a routine, and once a routine is established with a cat, it's difficult to break that. Love/Hate? Love of course. That's him saying "that's my mom".
Some suggestions:
1. If you want to fix the sleeping/getting awoken problem, you have to suck it up and ignore him when he does that. He'll stop doing it the moment he thinks that there is no chance that he'll get what he wants by doing that.
2. Don't judge a bengal by the moggie "affectionate" scale. The scale that says that if he walks over and buries himself in your lap and purrs means he loves you, and if he just wants to play and be around you all the time means he doesn't. That said... one thing that I learned from my crazy turbo-kitty Serafina was that pretty short, high value, high energy play that would totally satisfy her, and totally wear her out would often also have the side affect of making her more receptive to affection, which eventually led to her also initiating or actively seeking out said affection. So in other words, 10min of her leaping high in the air, and sprinting as fast as she could go to catch a bird toy, or running up and down stairs trying to catch a mouse toy, or climbing up and down cat trees and shelves trying to catch a bug toy, wipes her out. And then as she's laying on her side, happy as a clam for having caught the toy, I could come up and rub her nose and her ears, and get some purrs out of her.
3. If you want your bengal to bond more with your boyfriend, have him do more of the "positive" things, like feeding and playing with him, and less of the negative things like trimming claws or wranging him into car-carriers etc.
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