Hey,thank you all for your input, but I just want to make one this clear about all this. There is no WE. WE are not thinking of re-homing her, WE are not complaining about scratching, its just my partner. In no way whatsoever are both of us feeling this way.
People are saying "you shouldn't have pets, especially a Bengal, it's not a Christmas gift, stop bitching" etc .. Like I said before it was a mutual decision. In fact, my partner was the one who chose her, who spoke to the breeder, who made me watch videos on Youtube, read stuff up on the internet, who bought her litter box and all the other stuff she needs. It was all fine, I AM still fine, but she has completely turned on her. I've said several times, that you can't kick her out of her own home, most arguments end in tears and I see as my only solution to figure out how to make her behave a bit better so that my partner would stop calling her pain in the ass, stop shouting "F*** off", every time she goes near. It's horrible. I admit, I've thought of just taking her and leaving, but I can't really do that. What I need to do is make her love Katniss again and get Katniss not to scratch the way she does (she proper wraps her claws around the leg and sinks her teeth in, it is actually quite painful). And that's where I need help, before I'm being forced to choose between them.
We both work all day (except weekends), so she is home alone most of the day. Tuesdays and Thursdays we sometimes have a friend who stays at ours during the day and she keeps her company. She has got lots of toys and scratching post to keep her occupied during the day, though I do believe she sleeps most of it. At the moment Dan does not interact with her at all (though Saturday she did pick up Da Bird for about 10 mins and played with her). She is also never alone with her. I play with her a lot when I get home and she happily plays by herself as well (she loves to climb and take her little toys up, it's quite cute). When she gets tired she comes and sleeps on my lap. Then for example Dan gets up to go to the bathroom and Katniss will attack her while still half asleep. Sometimes Katniss just sits there and randomly throws herself to bite, when I start playing with her then thinking she just wants to play, she is not interested. But she will carry on biting and that's when all hell breaks loose. She gets shouted at, I get shouted at, it's a vicious cycle.
I need them to get along and I'm not just letting Katniss to be given away easily. But being told every day that this cat needs to go and that she hates her is not fair on anyone.
For now I just keep telling she is a baby and will grow out of it, even if she doesn't, this will buy me some time and I'll deal with whatever happens next when the time comes.
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