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PostPosted: Wed Apr 19, 2017 6:15 pm 
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I'm sure many here have far more experience than me. But as I'm a pet lover for decades and got blessed recently with currently an 11 weeks old Bengal, allow me to share how I managed to make a lap cat out of her.

The cats in general go through activity phases during the day; i.e. sleeping, napping, grooming, eating, playing... etc.

SLEEPING
And I'm referring here to deep sleep, not lazy naps. As she sleeps I tend to touch her head very lightly just till she becomes aware of me without scaring her. Then continue touching very gently and softly few times to get her pleased. Afterwards I touch the cheeks few times. By then she'll start tilting her head upside down, so I go to her jaws and neck. Very few times (in total 30 seconds max) and I stop without waking her up completely and leave her to continue sleeping. Do this every time he/she sleeps, for few days before going forward.

NAPPING
This is when she naps during the day for an hour or two. Start touching her as I did describe above starting with the head, cheeks all the way to her jaws and neck. Less than 30 seconds in total. Then carry him/her to your lap gently (just a meter away, not more) holding her body and legs (not dangling her legs). She'll be annoyed a bit, so I go on touching her head. And then... she continues napping on my lap allowing me to touch her. And as she wakes up she'll start playing while in my lap. However, anytime she decides to jump out of my lap, I don't stop her. But touch her head after she jumps to show her I don't mind.

KISSING
Yes believe it or not. After doing the above successfully, I started kissing her head as she sleeps and she'd turn her head upside down to kiss her cheeks and jaws... and she loves it.

I'm spoiling my Snickers with love and she loves it.

Try it with your Bengal and share with us how did it go.

PS Trying to turn her on my lap upside down (her back down and tummy up) is still unsuccessful. I'm not sure if I can succeed.


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PostPosted: Wed Apr 19, 2017 7:37 pm 
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My Blondie will nap on me and stay for a long time. She is very calm and loving. I can touch her and even trim her nails and she lets me. It is as if she goes into a deep trance where she is sort of aware but keeps her eyes closed and clings to me even in a chair. Grace on the other hand is very twitchy and jumpy, she has always been this way. On very rare occasions she has jumped up on me when I have been lying down on the sofa during their afternoon nap time. I have to hold completely still and she will settle in for a brief nap. If I move at all or breathe too deeply she will jolt up and fly right off me. One time not long ago, she jumped up onto my lap when I was in my chair watching TV and let me pet her as i do with Blondie. It only happened that one time, but I am optimistic she will do this again one day. Grace comes to me when I am sleeping and chirps asking me to pet her and rub her belly (she has the softest fur imaginable on her belly). She feels secure that she can easily get away if she wants to as I am lying down and sleepy. At times like that she is very loving, but this is usually the time she rips the bed sheets with her nails when she is kneading out of contentment. I keep having to buy new sheets so it is an expensive habit. When it is not nap time, neither one of my cats wants to be touched. I might be able to get a quick pet in but they usually dip down or run out of reach so I respect their boundaries and let them come to me for the most part.

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PostPosted: Thu Apr 20, 2017 9:51 pm 
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Know that most bengals are not lap cats and cannot tolerate being held. Tummies are not exposed until the cat is confident with you. That's exposing their most vulnerable area and when it happens, you'll know how she feels about you. Mine insists on several tummy tickles per day.

That main thing you need to be worried about is startling her. Nobody likes to be woken up from a deep sleep, especially ME!!! You sound like a touchy, feely type of guy that really wants to bond with her, but be careful and don't rush her. You have many years ahead and these first few weeks need to be cautious so you are not overwhelming her.


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PostPosted: Fri Apr 21, 2017 12:32 am 
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I'm writing now with a heart full of joy... what a day!

First and foremost I'd like to highlight that I'm between jobs. Therefore I'm 100% of the time with Snickers which might explain why things are developing so fast. Now the news:

LAP CAT
Today in the afternoon to my surprise while I was lying on my back on the sofa, Snickers jumped from his tree mansion to the sofa and slept on my neck, not chest! And she just slept for an hour or so. Despite that I wanted to do few things, but I was so happy with her presumable hug, so I stayed still. After she woke up she started licking herself, and went on licking my face and light beard till she finished grooming both of us ;)

After a long day with Snickers, I wanted to share the above with you. But after Snickers finished playing she came and slept on my lap. It's passed 2:00 am in the morning, which is not usual for any of us to be up this late.

Just now, I took her softly off my lap and got her to her treehouse bed. Took my iPad off the charger to write this update. As I sat down, Snickers left her bed and came to my lap, again, and now sleeping in my lap while I'm typing this.

It's a blessing to have her in my life, and definitely where we are right now has to do with trust, confidence, spoil and play.

Good night to you all and your furry masters :)


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PostPosted: Fri Apr 21, 2017 12:24 pm 
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This is soooo cute!!!
I hope Aiko will share the same affection :)


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PostPosted: Fri Apr 21, 2017 10:56 pm 
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WOW! She is bonding very quickly. Since you are around 100% of the time, this will go a lot faster. Snickers seems well socialized enough and she obviously is taken with you and happy that you are her provider and protector. No more screaming, I take it??? Baby steps until she is comfortable being taken to the garage or put in a harness. Sounds like you're doing a great job and letting her come to YOU, which means that is what she wants to do. I'd love for a kitty to sleep on me.


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PostPosted: Sat Apr 22, 2017 9:41 am 
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Sherry wrote:
WOW! She is bonding very quickly. Since you are around 100% of the time, this will go a lot faster. Snickers seems well socialized enough and she obviously is taken with you and happy that you are her provider and protector. No more screaming, I take it??? Baby steps until she is comfortable being taken to the garage or put in a harness. Sounds like you're doing a great job and letting her come to YOU, which means that is what she wants to do. I'd love for a kitty to sleep on me.


MEOWING
She only meowed (past tense) as I reported in another thread, no other time before or after. Only during the reported incidents.

CRYING
She only cried in the first 24 hours I brought her home, anytime I left the room she was at. Not any time afterwards.

TUMMY TOUCH
As of yesterday she turns her tummy up while sitting on my lap and enjoys her tummy being touched softly anytime during the day.

PURRING
Her pouring became louder, consultant and very often and time I touch her.

ATTACHMENT
If she's not playing, she's on my lap, in my arms, on my nick purring, licking or light biting me. Even if I put her into her bed, she'd jump out and sit on my lap. She's now upside down on my left arm and chest as I'm typing this.

THE KEY
I 100% treat her like a human baby. Even anytime she looses her balance off the couch or table while playing and is about to fall out, I hold her up... and I see in her eyes she recognizes that I saved her.

I never bonded (not even close) with any other pet like that in my life. Yes, we are both blessed.

PICTURE
It's too difficult to take a picture in an iPad with one hand without disturbing Snickers. This is the best shot I could get:
https://instagram.com/p/BTLqvbGlLpP/


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PostPosted: Sat Apr 22, 2017 11:39 am 
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HassaanAbdeen wrote:
THE KEY
I 100% treat her like a human baby. Even anytime she looses her balance off the couch or table while playing and is about to fall out, I hold her up... and I see in her eyes she recognizes that I saved her.


Heh, I dunno. I like your enthusiasm, and the fact that you are so happy with your new kitty, but I think you are 100% wrong about most of your assumptions about the cause and effect of the things you are seeing. I guarantee you that if/when you get another cat, and you treat that cat the exact same way, you will get a very different result. Probably in no way similar to what you are seeing now. This is because cats have very strong wills, and in most cases, they win the battle of wills more so than we do. Just when you think that you've got your cat trained to do a certain thing, that's when you realize that they are the ones training you to a much larger degree. Also, meows are very rarely a sign of unhappiness, dispair or mistreatment. It is simply a communication. The communication can be anything from "oh, hi, it's you, good to see you", to "I'd like some tuna please", to "I see a bird in the window" to "I'd really like to play with you right about now". Just like some people will talk your ear off, some cats will as well. And bengals seem to be pre-disposed to be talkers.

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PostPosted: Sat Apr 22, 2017 11:59 am 
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brianj12 wrote:
HassaanAbdeen wrote:
THE KEY
I 100% treat her like a human baby. Even anytime she looses her balance off the couch or table while playing and is about to fall out, I hold her up... and I see in her eyes she recognizes that I saved her.


Heh, I dunno. I like your enthusiasm, and the fact that you are so happy with your new kitty, but I think you are 100% wrong about most of your assumptions about the cause and effect of the things you are seeing. I guarantee you that if/when you get another cat, and you treat that cat the exact same way, you will get a very different result. Probably in no way similar to what you are seeing now. This is because cats have very strong wills, and in most cases, they win the battle of wills more so than we do. Just when you think that you've got your cat trained to do a certain thing, that's when you realize that they are the ones training you to a much larger degree. Also, meows are very rarely a sign of unhappiness, dispair or mistreatment. It is simply a communication. The communication can be anything from "oh, hi, it's you, good to see you", to "I'd like some tuna please", to "I see a bird in the window" to "I'd really like to play with you right about now". Just like some people will talk your ear off, some cats will as well. And bengals seem to be pre-disposed to be talkers.


You're probably right Brian. But that's what I have and that's how I deal with her and this is the result I'm getting... for now. I'm sure things might change as she grows or as circumstances change.

I'm not preeching, I'm just sharing my success stories.

Thank you for your feedback.


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PostPosted: Sat Apr 22, 2017 10:15 pm 
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Oh Brian, don't bring down his enthusiasm. :biggrin: Snickers is just super adorable and looks so content in that picture. I truly would probably be the same way with a little bengal baby. And I know how thrilled Hassaan with every single baby step in getting Snickers comfortable. Some people want a cat just to have a cat. Others want a cat to be a companion and friend. I think it is wonderful that Hassaan is posting about the way Snickers has settled in. I never had that with my bengel as he was six years old when I got him. But, I've had kittens before and I just can't let go of them. One was named Snuggles because he had to snuggle into your neck while laying on your shoulder. I am so happy for you, Hassaan and Snickers.


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