Hi - Have you decided what to do? I have three cats, we recently brought home our third for a similar reason to you.
Meili our eldest girl (who is 6 next month) originally had a playmate (boy) who was only a couple of months younger than her, they were inseparable (although when they fought you would think they were trying to kill each other but 2 minutes later then would be wrapped around each other asleep!) Sadly we lost Harley far too young through illness, I had nursed him for 5 months but we knew the time would come and when it did it was heart breaking, I stillmiss him dearly. Meili was awful, she eat and drank but would not play, come for fuss (and she had always been a true lap cat, I carried her around in my arms like a baby and she would crawl into your bed an night given the chance to snuggle with you - she was very loving so this was extremely out of character for her) she hid away and slept in all the places Harley used as his quiet spots, in the end I was as heart broken over the state of her as I was over the premature loss of our boy so whilst I felt it too soon for me I looked at bringing home another kitten to see if it would pull her out of her misery and home came Chester. We brought him home at about 15 weeks and whilst it was the typical hissing snarling whirlwind that we expected it only lasted for a few days then they bonded very quickly and became very close. The last 4-5 months Chester's energy levels have far outweighed Meili's and whilst they did play, when she had had enough he hadn't and still pestered and eventually (I think/hope through frustration would pounce and bite her and Chester is a big cat so he overpowers her this would then end up in a fight - she would put him in his place and calmness would return but I began thinking he perhaps would benefit from a younger play mate and she needed a little peace!) Like yourself I worried that it would upset their relationship, would the newbie bond with one and the other be left out? Would two pair up and attack the other? etc etc I began looking and thinking and then I felt fate took over (I've always wanted a melanisitic and my late boys breeder had one available but I would be second in line) anyway fate played its hand I was offered this boy and I brought him home. So we now have our 6 year old girl, an 18 month old boy and a 5 month old boy. The boys bonded very quickly but Meili was more aloof with the newbie, however she came round and I can happily say that we do have the situation I hoped for. The 2 boys tear around the house and are the naughtiest cats I have ever known and Meili gets the peace I think she so deserves, however we do have times when all three bat around like lunatics and its a true joy to see - we also have a few rare occasions when they are all asleep together although usually the boys sleep together and Meili sleeps in her cat tree. I appreciate all our fur babies have their own characters and I believe we are very fortunate that we have three cats who get along the way they do, they have their moments and it has not all been plain sailing but so, so worth it. Only you could decide what you feel is best but I very nearly passed the opportunity by of bringing Jaego home as I was worried of the outcome yet I look at them now nad know I made the right decision.
Good luck whatever you choose to do whether it be to love cherish and enjoy your existing babies or take the plunge and add another to the mix xx
Here's my three looking unusually calm and peaceful all at the same time - now that's a rarity!!! a2.JPG a1.JPG
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_________________ Rebecca West Midlands, England Proud mum, provider, waiter & general house slave to: Meili brown spot born 07.11.09 Chester seal lynx rosetted born 10.04.14 Jaego melanistic born 16.05.15 Roxi big, sloppy French Mastiff born 10.04.11
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