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PostPosted: Sun Nov 18, 2018 11:20 am 
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Hello everyone, so glad to have found this forum!

I am getting a 15 weeks old bengal in 6 weeks, and although I have informed myself as much as I could until now through the internet and other owners, I have some wonderings on preparing my home for my new friend. Also she will be flying with me to her new home, so I want to make extra sure she has a safe place to arrive to. I have had cats most of my life, but never a bengal. So here some things I'm wondering

I will of course make sure I have more than enough toys/ climbing things for her ready when she comes.
I live in a 3 bedroom apartment. Should I keep her in my bedroom only when she first gets here?
Should I cover plugs or any other things that could be dangerous for her?
What is a 'normal' time for a bengal kitten of this age to feel confident around me and her new home?

Thank you so much, and ANY other tips (maybe some people have encountered problems?) would be appreciated!!


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PostPosted: Mon Nov 19, 2018 11:20 pm 
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lolabengal wrote:
Hello everyone, so glad to have found this forum!

I am getting a 15 weeks old bengal in 6 weeks, and although I have informed myself as much as I could until now through the internet and other owners, I have some wonderings on preparing my home for my new friend. Also she will be flying with me to her new home, so I want to make extra sure she has a safe place to arrive to. I have had cats most of my life, but never a bengal. So here some things I'm wondering

I will of course make sure I have more than enough toys/ climbing things for her ready when she comes.
I live in a 3 bedroom apartment. Should I keep her in my bedroom only when she first gets here?
Should I cover plugs or any other things that could be dangerous for her?
What is a 'normal' time for a bengal kitten of this age to feel confident around me and her new home?

Thank you so much, and ANY other tips (maybe some people have encountered problems?) would be appreciated!!


Welcome, how exciting for you. I look forward to hearing more about her when she arrives.

To answer your questions:
1. It's often helpful to do that (keep her in the bedroom initially) but play it by ear. When she is ready to explore more of the apartment, you will know.

2. Electrical plugs and cables are a big deal, so yes! I think the biggest problem is often the biting of electrical cables. For that, using wire covers is a big help, as is having some "bitter yuck" type of spray as a training tool.

3. It depends on so many things. Her socialization prior to you getting her, the home that she's going into, her personality, and your ability get her to trust her and feel safe. The only one of those things that you can control is the latter, so focus on that. I would set your expectations though at it being a week or so for trusting you, and possibly another week or so for trusting the new home, but don't be surprised if it takes longer (or shorter) than that.

My tips (aka, things I wished someone would have told me prior to getting my first bengals):
1. Tall cat trees to climb are really important.
2. She is going to have a really high play need, so make sure you set aside time every day as part of a routine to do that.
3. Interactive toys like dabird, neeko flies, flying frenzy (and similar) are generally loved by bengals, so long as you are on one end of them. Toys that just sit on the floor are likely to be mostly ignored.
4. Make sure to schedule a vet visit the first week, and if the vet clearly isn't a "cat vet" don't be afraid to dump them.
5. Pet insurance can be a godsend and let you make the right decisions for her without concern for costs, especially if money is tight. If you do get pet insurance, do it soon after getting her, before there are "pre-existing conditions"
6. Now is the time to ponder what your "late night" strategy will be for her. Once she starts howling and you run to her side in the middle of the night, that can become a routine before you know it. Bengals often have very loud voices!
7. Keep the same litter and food that the breeder is using (if possible) for awhile but also start researching that. Don't be afraid to do lots of experimenting, and don't be 100% reliant on any one food.

Have fun! We expect lots of pictures and stories.

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PostPosted: Tue Nov 20, 2018 3:45 pm 
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Welcome to our forum and congratulations your upcoming kitty. Brian gives top-notch advice on this forum. Thank you, Brian! It's wonderful you are anticipating everything prior to your baby arriving. Gosh a plane ride to start off with. I'm guessing she will be in the cabin with you? Hopefully, you will get a secure carrier for her and do not take her out of it, no matter how much she may cry or yowl. She is going to be quite stressed out to say the least. Some cats behave very well. Mine would yowl at the top of his lungs the entire trip.

You will want to "cat proof" your house. Get on your hands and knees and crawl around so you are seeing things from her angle and make sure she can't get behind things like furniture or holes she may not be able to back herself out of. One member here thought she'd lost her kitten but heard it meowing from behind a kitchen cabinet.

I already know she will be spoiled beyond belief. Bengals are loyal and social so she will want to be with you much of the time. A safe room is simply a place for a cat to decompress after the stress of leaving mom and siblings and coming to a whole new environment and human. Some cats deal better with it than others, but you will be able to tell. So, just use your own judgment. You can't go wrong either way. Bengals also love to sleep with you, so be prepared to share your bed. Note that not all bengals love being held, carried around, or sleeping on laps. Many do -- but a lot will depend on the socialization of this kitten.

My advice to you is to simply be patient and let her settle in at her own pace. Time is your friend. Good luck.


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PostPosted: Tue Nov 20, 2018 9:35 pm 
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Thank you so much guys, this is super helpful!! And yes I will get on my hands and knees to check everything before she gets here! All the advice I can get is appreciated, thanks so much and yes I will post some pictures!
And by the way I am looking forward to sharing my bed with my new best friend!

Thanks again guys, please let me know if you think of aaanything else, as I hadn't though of a few of these things.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 03, 2018 10:13 pm 
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Sherry wrote:

You will want to "cat proof" your house. Get on your hands and knees and crawl around so you are seeing things from her angle and make sure she can't get behind things like furniture or holes she may not be able to back herself out of. One member here thought she'd lost her kitten but heard it meowing from behind a kitchen cabinet.



Ehm... yes thats reconizable...
My 'saferoom' (well the cats) was my bathroom, which is quite big actually.
When i had Ayla and Finnley 3 days i heard them being awake allready in the morning. I opened the door... no cats in sight. Well my badroom is quite big, but not that big to actually lose 2 cats in :eek:
They found out they are able to climb under my bath lol, never noticed the plastic 'sides' werent of 1 piece :laugh2:

Allthough i dont close the door anymore, the bathroom is still the place where 2 (of the 3) litterboxes are, where they get their food and have a hammock. Especially Ayla likes to be there, but thats because of the floorheating :biggrin:


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PostPosted: Tue Dec 04, 2018 3:43 pm 
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And they can slip through the smallest spaces. Our cat tree condo has a small "diamond" shaped opening and Raiden crawled through it the other night. Never did that before and I wasn't sure he would fit, but he squeezed through it.


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PostPosted: Tue Dec 04, 2018 8:10 pm 
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Looking low to the ground is a good thing for their first month or two. After that though, you gotta look *up*. I think that was one of the biggest difference between the bengals and other cats I've had. Their desire to get to the highest points of the home, play up there, and then find a way down causes a lot of problems.

For example:

1. Jumping from floor to counter to top of refrigerator to top of kitchen cabinets (like 2ft from a high ceiling) and then running amok up there.
2. Jumping from floor to top of audio cabinet to top of wall system/cabinets, then having a problem getting down from there (until I installed the hicat and shelving)
3. climbing the curtains, getting all the way up to the curtain rod, running across the curtain rod and climbing down to the top of a tall bookcase.
4. climbing to the top of a tall cat tree, then leaping from there to the top of a bookcase
5. jumping from the floor to the bathroom counter, and from there to the top of the walk-in shower. Impressive since the shower wall is like an inch thick, so it's like walking a tight-rope up there.

One of the biggest problems of each of these examples, is they get themselves in situations where it's pretty difficult to get *down* from there.

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PostPosted: Wed Dec 05, 2018 3:56 pm 
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LOL Brian ... you speak of experience!


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PostPosted: Thu Dec 06, 2018 12:16 pm 
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Oh my gosh that's crazy! I have really high ceilings so I have bought a few very high cat trees (nearly 3m each), so will be interesting to see how she reacts! Hopefully will be able to get down by herself haha!

Also, does anyone have bonding tips for bengals? I'm a huge cuddler and of course would like my bengal to be too. I know I can't push personalities 180 degrees but if you have any advice I'd love to hear it

thanks again everyone. Can't wait to ger her in 6 weeks!!


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PostPosted: Thu Dec 06, 2018 5:31 pm 
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There are a lot of bengal cuddlers. Yours is young, so it will depend on the bond and the companionship you present. Spending lots of time with your baby. Personalities are definitely different. A lot may depend upon the socialization by the breeder. Just know that bengals show love in different ways.

The key is not to force the kitty into cuddling. Lots of petting and you can entice her on your lap with treats and toys.


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PostPosted: Thu Dec 06, 2018 7:06 pm 
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Bengals do cuddle and crave companionship. They just don't do it quite like other cats. Or perhaps they just do it more intensely. It is a matter of finding the kind of touch that they like, and they will come back for more and more and more! If I stop paying attention to Oberon, he yowls in protest. and sometime does a soft chew on my elbow or wrist to get my attention.

He was adopted from a shelter at age 9, and was neutered at that time. I have watched him learn how to play (and not run off with the toy/prey). We have taught each other the touch that he likes. Petting his fur and patting his back (actually heavy thumping that borders on spanking). Scratching ears and neck. Sometime even belly rubs. He does not lie on laps laps, but will lie on the couch pressing his bod up against me. Recently has started laying on my legs and lap when I am in bed. He struggles and whines when I pick him up, but quiets down and relaxes if I reward him by thumping him.

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PostPosted: Thu Dec 06, 2018 9:30 pm 
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ColoVega wrote:
We have taught each other the touch that he likes.


I like what you're saying here.
I have my 2 bengals now 2 months and we are still in the process. We do know eachother now... a bit. But other things we are still figuring out.

Ayla is getting more and more out of her shell.
She is not the cuddly type, however she purrs more for me now, accepts being picked up and hold for a few seconds (while im cuddling her), and even crawled onto my lap a couple of times, if i take her with me the first time i wake up (and go to the toilet) during the night, she is totally relaxed and we have a bit of a cuddly session on my bed and she will stay with me till morning. However when i go to bed and take her with me, she jumps of immidiatly.
During the day she does follow me around constantly, more then Finn does.

Finnley is more my cuddle cat, he is on my lap or beside me most of the evening (not while playing and galopping through the house ofcourse lol, they have their crazy hour right now), purrs when i pet him and if he is on my lap he sometimes complains when i stop petting him :)
He is beginning to be more talkative, however about half of the time i dont understand him, not sure if he is just talking to me or actually wants something.
We need a bit more time in that i guess :)

I do give them and myself time, we are still getting to know eachother. Im their 3rd home before they where even 7 months old and they have had a bit of a bad start in life. Me on the other hand am still getting used to the fact that i lost my old cat in september, we knew eachother through and through and she had been with me for 16,5 years. Starting over with young kittens is different, quite different :)

I love the process we are in though, i see small differences every few days.


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PostPosted: Thu Dec 06, 2018 11:02 pm 
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lolabengal wrote:
Also, does anyone have bonding tips for bengals? I'm a huge cuddler and of course would like my bengal to be too. I know I can't push personalities 180 degrees but if you have any advice I'd love to hear it


I think you need to be careful with that. You have a pre-conceived notion that you want your cat to be a "cuddler", so did you make that your top criteria when selecting one? If you didn't, then you have to accept and appreciate your bengal for who he is, and I'd say that in general, bengals are not known for being ultra-cuddly types of cats.

I fell into that trap to some degree when I got mine. I had an extremely cuddly cat pass away before getting mine. That cat loved to be carried around like a baby, loved being picked up, held etc. Loved sleeping by my side, sitting on my lap, and all the rest of that. So somewhat arrogantly I figured that I'd "teach" the bengals to be like that. So I'd pick them up a lot, pet them a lot, put them on my lap, etc., with the idea that I'm "conditioning them". It turned out to be a really bad approach. What I eventually figured out was that I needed to be doing the exact opposite thing. I should give finding out what *they* loved, and doing more of *that*. So it meant me playing more with them, because that was their #1 need and what they responded most positively to. And then secondarily, figuring out the type of petting that *they* responded to best, and then not sweating over where they were on the "cuddly" scale. But I will say that now 8 years later, they both come to me to demand affection, will sit on my lap when they want to, and often sleep next to me, and pretty much anytime I'm in the house, and no matter what I'm doing, when I look up there will be both bengals very nearby.

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PostPosted: Thu Dec 06, 2018 11:17 pm 
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lolabengal wrote:
Oh my gosh that's crazy! I have really high ceilings so I have bought a few very high cat trees (nearly 3m each), so will be interesting to see how she reacts! Hopefully will be able to get down by herself haha!


What's really funny is seeing your cat, sitting on the floor, wide-eyed, looking up at all the stuff above her, and seeing the wheels turning.

My reaction: "oh crap!"

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PostPosted: Fri Dec 07, 2018 4:49 pm 
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With Raiden, the wheels don't turn. He just jumps.


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